Some of the Jewish matchmaking members complain about Common misspellings for internet searches related to the Jewish dating industry. I've made most of these myself so I can relate. Jewish is often spelled (or a typo) as jewsih, iewish, newish, uewish, mewish, jeeish, jesish, jeqish, jewosh, jewush, jewksh, or jewieh. The second largest mistake is spelling single as signle (switching the n and the g). It is surprising to see the number of searches for Jewish sinlges, Jewish snigle or Jewish singel. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only person that can't spell. LOL.
In a world of instability and change, we may be faced with difficult situations that conceal and obscure the initial excitement of “love.” Where there is total commitment from the onset, compromise and communication can, and will follow. When commitment is lacking and the Western values of immediate gratification, the comfort of “disposable dishes”, and need of “pain-free living” emerge, the relationship will dissolve.
We ought to take the remarkable jewish matchmaking lessons of previous marriages as a shining example of the preferred sequence of events in Jewish tradition. In olden days when: “he married Rebecca, she became his wife and he loved her.” First came the commitment and over time the love followed. Single Jewish women where once a verb; love is an outgrowth of investing my self unconditionally in my spouse over time. This commitment and desire to act unconditionally is what gives strength and stability to a relationship through “thick and thin!”
"I'M GOOD (BUT YOU'RE NOT)"
In this approach, you prove how wonderful you are at the expense of others. For
example, "I check in with my mother every day, even though my siblings don't
bother to." Or, "I always make sure to clean up after myself in the cafeteria,
though I notice most people don't." Usually, this behavior comes from an inner
sense of unworthiness……a feeling not being “good enough."
People listening to this running theme can't help but wonder whether they will
eventually be used as lead-ins to how "good" you are versus them. It can lead to
suspicion and defensive moves on their parts.
ANTIDOTE: I do not have to make you feel bad in order to feel good. I am “good
enough”.